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Originally Posted by Franco Cozzo
Rather interesting perspective on the issue of the child support system.
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Our CS system is a criminal organisation. Only people that have had to deal with them are aware of how corrupt the system is.
Here is how it works:
Mum pops out kids then leaves father. Mum generally stays in family home with kids.
Father needs to find a new place to live, needs to buy new furniture, needs to find new friends because most believe that all fathers are bad and all mothers are loving beings that only care for her kids.
Father wants to see his children, mum can say no and there is not a thing dad can do - even though the 'spirit' of family law states that they are both equal parents.
Mum calls child support, claims to be a single mum caring for her children almost full time. The fact dad has asked to be in the kids life several times is totally irrelevant.
Child support calls dad. They confirm that dad has only seen his kids one weekend in the past month. They declare that mum has 95% care and dad has 5% care. The fact that they are both legally entitled to be parents is irrelevant, as is that fact that mum will possibly go to work, send kids to day care / parents / friends for care during the day while dad may be at home twiddling his thumbs able to care for his kids more but told he isn't allowed to 'in the best interests of the children'.
Dad is asked to pay $x,xxx a month in child support. Dad tells them the story but they don't care. The fact is you see your kids 5% of the time and mum has them the rest so you MUST pay up.
Dad now can't make ends meet. He stays up at night saying what the hell he did to deserve this treatment. He may send a message to mum saying what the f%^& are you doing all this for.
Mum feels threatened and intimidated and goes to the police. They instantly grant her the AVO she was baiting the dad to get so that the last 5% of the time she graciously granted to him is now gone.
Child support now want more money becaue mum has 100% care.
Dad gets 2nd / 3rd / 4th job and attempts to start legal proceedings. He is told because of the AVO and the fact he hasn't seen his kids in ages the best he can hope for is gradual over nights after 2-3 years once their case comes up.
Dad now must pay much more in child support. No one in child support EVER informed him of the 3 year rule where he can earn 30% more and its not able to be touched by the ex. In fact, most child support workers don't know of the rule.
By the time they get to court mum proudly claims that she has been doing it all alone for the past few years with no help from the father. The millions of emails / text messages and missed phone calls the dad made in the hope she would 'allow' him to see his children more are irrelevant.
But hang on - dad is working 3-4 jobs, how can he possibly be able to see his kids more your honour? And the judge nods his head in agreement.
Dad quits his main job as the emotional toll have effected his ability to work. It could be assumed that the mental damage has been attributed to him NOT being 'allowed' to see his children while paying for the privilege of not seeing them.
He is told that he must continue to pay the full amount as it was his 'choice' to stop working.
Dad now hasn't seen his children in several years. He gets the odd text message from mutual friends that they are ok and they call another bloke dad.
Dad still pays child support every month in the hope that one day in the future his adult kids will possibly look for him to get his side of the story and thank him for all he provided. That's a common line used to make good fathers feel better paying for kids they will probably never see again.
Oh, dad stopped the legal proceedings. There are still no court orders stating he can't see his children and in the eyes of the law he has just as much right to his kids as mum does.
Dad learns that child support is not legally bound to follow court orders even if they did exist. He hears horror stories of mothers losing custody of their children in court, with orders stating that kids live with father full time. Mum packs bags and moves overseas with children.
Child support thanks father for confirming he is no longer caring for the children and once again gives the other parent thousands in support even though she is actually in violation of court orders that possibly cost the father upwards of $150k.
Dad moves on - changes states and gets a job in the mines making 40% more than he did before.
He now has to pay 40% more child support because by some coincidence the cost of the children to the mum just went up overnight in line with his new job.
Any time mum goes out she will proudly state how tough her life is raising the kids all alone. People will rally around her, offer her unlimited support, tell her she is amazing, and remind her how good she was to leave her dead beat partner who is seemingly never around for the children and obviously didn't care enough to finish 'fighting' on court.
The dad on the other had will tell people that he tried court and was not allowed to see his children. Hmm why? What did he do I wonder? Hmm he has an AVO? He isn't allowed to see his kids, he was removed from the family home, hmmm hang on, court is where bad people get punished and good people triumph.. hmmm what is he hiding???
Why there aren't riots in the street about this I have no bloody idea.....